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Knocking down walls!




Knocking down walls!


Often one of the earliest parts of a new plan or idea is to knock down the walls! Depending on what you are planning of course. The idea might have run quite smoothly up to now and then you hit this wall. A HUGE barrier that stops you making any progress.

This blog contains a few tips to help you see what is standing in the way of you doing what you want and how to move beyond it.



Here are some barriers that may come up:


  • You don't think you are worth it

  • It's too hard

  • It's too expensive

  • There's no time! How can I possibly make more time in my day?

  • I'm not the sort of person who does things like that.

  • It's not 'me'

  • My husband/wife/partner/girlfriend/boyfriend/friend/mother/father will give me a hard time

  • I tried it once before and I was rubbish, it didn't work

  • I don't deserve it.

  • Everyone else is doing it better

  • I don't know enough- I need more training

  • No-one will take me seriously

  • I'll make a fool of myself


Do any of these sound familiar?

How about you give this simple exercise a try to see if something can shift a little? Just a little - to get you on your way.



Write it down

This will take you 5 minutes. Make sure you take that time.

Write down your barrier.

Please do not underestimate the power of writing something down to get it out of your head. It is very powerful.

It puts the thought where you can see it and manage it.


OK - so now what?

There are several directions it can take depending on what type of person you are and how you respond to the world in general (Visually? Factually? Physically? Aurally?)


However- first of all write down a small step you could take to change it and make it shrink a little.

While you are here write another small step you could take to ease the barrier a little.

Spend a few moments and see if anything else comes to mind. If there is nothing else that's OK. Put your thoughts away - they are so much easier to file now they're not in your head!





  • Visual people might draw something shrinking.

  • Factual people will weigh up the numbers and look at how to add or subtract something.

  • A physical person may scrunch it up or push the barrier away.

  • If it's about sounds you may turn the volume down a bit and listen out for something else.


Often doing a written exercise (however simple) is an excellent way of starting a thought process. More ideas crop up for you. You are more focused on changing things. You 'tune in' more. Options become available that you had not considered.

Good luck!


If you are finding that nothing is changing for you even after a serious attempt at this exercise, do get in touch for another perspective.


t: 07501817739

nicolashelleycoach@gmail.com



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